Meet Your Therapist on Big Island and Across Hawai‘i
Hi, I’m Judy.
Licensed Mental Health Counselor providing online couples counseling and trauma therapy across Hawaiʻi, including the Big Island and Kailua-Kona.
I specialize in trauma-informed couples therapy, with a strong focus on:
Rebuilding trust after infidelity — emotional, physical, or digital
Making sense of what happened beneath the betrayal
Working through the trauma response that follows broken trust
Anxiety and attachment wounds that surface inside relationships
Learning how to respond instead of react
Many of the couples I work with are seeking infidelity recovery counseling in Hawaiʻi and want structured, steady support as they rebuild trust.
I also work with individuals who:
Want to repair their relationship, even if their partner won’t attend therapy
Settle for relationships that leave them feeling unseen, unheard, or unsure — repeating familiar dynamics and overlooking red flags along the way
I provide online trauma therapy in Hawaiʻi for adults who want to understand how life experiences and past trauma are influencing their current relationships.
Whether you’re rebuilding after infidelity, feeling stuck in repeating relationship dynamics, or working through trauma on your own — our work goes deeper than communication tips.
In our sessions, we:
Look at attachment patterns learned early in life and understand how they’re influencing how you show up now
Slow down emotional reactions so you can respond intentionally — even in hard conversations
Identify the beliefs you absorbed from family, past relationships, or trauma that are quietly shaping your decisions
Learn how to stay present in conflict without shutting down, blowing up, or walking away
Rebuild trust step by step when betrayal has occurred
Practice real-life tools between sessions that go beyond journaling prompts and surface-level questions (homework doesn't have to be boring!)
This is active, engaged therapy. Not passive insight. Not endless processing.
You don’t just understand your patterns. You change how you show up inside them.
What We Actually Do in Therapy
This isn’t just about talking it out.
This is me and my favorite person on the planet.
We’ve been best friends for over 31 years.
Has it been easy? No.
There have been disappointments, arguments, misunderstandings, and seasons that stretched us.
But we learned how to repair.
How to stay in hard conversations.
How to grow instead of withdraw.
I don’t just teach these tools — I practice them in my own life. And I’ve seen firsthand that when both people are willing to do the work, change is absolutely possible.
Whether you’re in online couples counseling after infidelity or seeking individual trauma therapy in Hawaiʻi, our work is practical, structured, and focused on real change.
If you're thinking you're ready to start this journey and I'm the therapist to partner with, then...
When I’m not in session, you’ll usually find me near the ocean. The beach is my reset button. A reminder to slow down, breathe deeper, and come back to center.
I love to dance. All kinds of music. Movement has always been one of the ways I regulate my own nervous system and reconnect with my genuine self.
I cook. I bake. I sit on the lanai and scroll when I need quiet. I spend time with my family and our fur baby, Indie. And yes I love karaoke... a lot!
Real life matters to me. Relationships matter to me. Joy matters to me.
The work we do in therapy isn’t about becoming a different person. It’s about becoming more steady, more honest, and more connected in the life you’re already living.
Life outside the (Virtual) Office on Big Island!
If you’re looking for a space where the hard parts of your relationship or your story can be spoken out loud — without judgment — that’s part of this work.
And if you’re ready to go beyond just understanding why things feel hard and start changing how you show up inside them, we’ll do good work together.
Change doesn’t happen overnight. It happens when insight turns into practice and practice turns into new ways of responding.
I’m here to help you move through that process with clarity and steadiness.