Couples Therapy in Hawai‘i

How Relationship Struggles Show Up in Your Life

Even strong relationships can hit rough spots. Over time, old wounds, unspoken needs and repeating patterns can leave you feeling distant, frustrated, or misunderstood.

Sometimes it looks like conflict and other times it’s the silence in between. Whatever it looks like for you, you’re not alone — these patterns are more common than most couples realize.

Signs Your Relationship Might Be Struggling

• Conversations turn into arguments or you avoid them altogether

• Feeling more like roommates than partners

• Struggling to rebuild trust after betrayal or broken promises

• Intimacy feels distant — emotionally, physically or both

• Repeating the same conflicts over and over without resolution

• Difficulty expressing needs or feeling unheard in the relationship

• Feeling stuck in patterns of resentment, disconnection, or loneliness

• Wondering if you’re on the same page about your future together

Every relationship struggles sometimes —

it doesn’t mean your relationship is broken beyond repair.

You don’t have to keep having the same fights or sitting in silence, hoping things will change. Working with a couples therapist in Hawai‘i can help you understand each other better, communicate openly and reconnect in a way that feels safe and lasting.

Did you know? Relationship struggles often bring up anxiety — fear of rejection, overthinking or emotional shutdowns. If this sounds familiar, explore anxiety therapy to find calm not just within your relationship but within yourself ↗

What Changes When You Start Relationship or Couples Therapy

Relationship and Couples therapy isn’t about blaming, fixing or choosing sides — it’s about creating space for both (or all) of you to feel heard, understood and connected again. It's not about going back to what the relationship looked like before but building something new.

When you work with me, a couples therapist in Kailua-Kona, we’ll uncover the patterns keeping you stuck and help you build tools that bring you back to each other.

How Relationships Can Start to Feel Different

Change doesn’t happen overnight — but even small shifts can bring you closer.

• Breaking free from repeating the same painful patterns

• Feeling like team mates instead of opponents or roommates

• Navigating differences around money, parenting, sex, or future plans with less tension

• Creating a relationship that feels intentional, safe and lasting

• Feeling more connected and supported in your relationship

• Communicating openly and effectively without constant arguments or shutdowns

• Rebuilding trust and intimacy after distance, betrayal or conflict

• Understanding each other’s needs without defensiveness or blame

It’s possible to feel closer, communicate better and build a stronger foundation together. Working with a relationship and couples therapist in Hawai‘i can help you reconnect, rebuild trust and create the kind of relationship you've always wanted and needed.

My Approach as a Relationship & Couples Therapist

Couples and relationship therapy isn’t about blame, choosing sides or forcing a “right way” to love — it’s about creating space where you feel heard, understood and supported.

My approach is gentle, direct, collaborative and practical, helping you identify patterns, strengthen communication and rebuild trust. I work with all kinds of partnerships — including LGBTQ+ couples, polyamorous relationships and open dynamics — because every love story deserves care, compassion and respect.

What Makes Empower Change Counseling Different

Here’s what you can expect when we work together:

No matter what your relationship looks like, support is here. Together, we’ll work to improve communication, rebuild trust and create a connection that feels safe, secure and deeply fulfilling.

Root-Cause Focus

Whole Person Approach

Collaborative and Client Focused

Evidence Based + Outside the Box Tools

We’ll look beneath the surface to understand the patterns driving disconnection and address what’s really happening.

All relationships are unique. This is a safe, judgment-free space for yours.

This isn’t about me telling you how to love — it’s about helping you reconnect at your own pace, in a way that fits your relationship.

Learn strategies to improve communication, repair trust and deepen connection — build a stronger foundation for the relationship you want.