The Unlearning Project - Big Island, Hawai'i

What "Unlearning" Really Means

Healing and growth often mean unlearning the rules, expectations, and patterns that kept us small, disconnected, or anxious. This blog is about questioning the scripts you were handed—about love, confidence, and worth—and replacing them with something real.

Think of it as therapy meets real talk: bite-sized insights, nervous system science, and stories that remind you it’s okay to be human.

Who is This Blog For?

The Unlearning Project is for the overthinkers, the strong ones, the peacekeepers, and the “fixers” who are tired of pretending everything’s fine. If you’re navigating unhealthy relationship patterns, trauma, anxiety or coping with disordered eating that just won’t quit—you’ll find tools, validation, and a gentle (sometimes rebellious) nudge toward change here.

Whether you’re in Kailua-Kona, Hilo, or anywhere across Hawai‘i, this space was built for you.

What You’ll Find Here

• Practical mindset shifts that actually make sense in real life

• Relationship tools that help you communicate, not just cope

• Deep dives on anxiety, trauma, and self-love—done without the fluff

• Reflections from my own journey as both therapist and human

Every post is written to feel like a conversation, not a lecture. The goal: less “fixing,” more understanding.

Why It Matters

Unlearning is how change sticks. It’s how we break cycles, set boundaries, and create relationships (with others and ourselves) that actually feel good.

This is your permission slip to do therapy differently—to think, feel, and grow without the shame spiral.

Ready to start unlearning the patterns keeping you stuck? Explore the latest posts or visit Empower Change Counseling ↗ to begin your journey.